I’m starting this because I needed it at 35

Hi — I’m Batu.

I’m 35, and I’m learning how to live with ADHD way later than I wish I had.

For most of my life I thought my struggles meant I was lazy, inconsistent, or “just not disciplined enough.” I could be sharp and productive one day… and completely stuck the next. At work, I’d restart the same task multiple times because I got interrupted. At home, I’d feel guilty for being distracted or overwhelmed. And the worst part was the feeling that I should be able to handle it — but somehow I couldn’t.

I don’t want other people to feel alone in this, the way I did.

So I’m starting this newsletter.

A quick note on what this is — and what it’s not:

• I’m not a clinician, therapist, or coach.
• I’m not here to “teach ADHD” or give medical advice.
• I’m an adult diagnosed late, trying to build real-life systems that work in messy days — work, family, emotions, routines — and sharing what actually helps.

What you can expect here:

• Small, practical tools you can try (not huge life overhauls)
• Honest stories (including what didn’t work)
• “Bad-day versions” of everything (because that’s real life)

I’ll rotate between three topics:

1. ADHD at work (focus, meetings, interruptions, feedback, follow-through)
2. ADHD + family/parenting (especially how we support kids without shame)
3. Late diagnosis + mental health (self-trust, burnout, the emotional side)

If you’re reading this and thinking, “Finally, someone who gets it” — that’s exactly why this exists.

One question for you (hit reply — I read every message): What’s the hardest part of ADHD for you right now?

Warmly, Batu